Do you fear confrontation or run away from what could be a potential or perceived conflict?
For many people, anticipating a confrontation or being concerned that a conversation will “go negative” is enough to make them back off, shut down, or approach the other person aggressively. The high discomfort level is often disproportionate to the actual situation.
These individuals are driven purely by the fear of not knowing what to do or what to say. It only takes a few bad experiences with confrontation or perceived confrontation to make someone uncomfortable addressing those often difficult and sensitive issues.
Then there are other people who seem to enjoy confrontation. The thought of an argument pumps them up, and they get ready for a dramatic and potentially volatile interaction. This more confrontational type of person is typically comfortable with the drama of the fight. It's familiar.
When you want to talk to someone about something that’s significant or sensitive, think of the interaction as a conversation or a discussion and not as a confrontation. Try to view it as an opportunity to clarify something.
These conversations are often about expressing feelings, understanding confusing issues, addressing points of view, resolving problems, or introducing new topics.
If you want to stick around, not argue and have more productive conversations, then learn how to be a more effective communicator. You'll grow your confidence and ALL of your relationships will feel much more satisfying at home and at work. Learning how to address conflicts, actively listen and respond thoughtfully will make a world of difference in your life.
If you’re not sure how to start the conversation, or how to respond and you need practical communication tools, the Relationship Protocol can help. Don't keep running away...
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