When conversations feel confusing, tense, or distant, and you don’t know how to say what you need to say—here’s how to get back on the same page.
My Communication Tools®
These tools come from a proven framework developed through decades of real-world experience helping people navigate everyday and difficult conversations.
Most people were never taught how to communicate clearly so important conversations feel harder than they should.
You don’t need more silence, more arguments, or more “we’ll talk later.”
You need clear, simple tools you can actually use, without getting angry, defensive, or shutting down.
This program is for individuals and couples who want to speak up, feel more in control, and feel more connected in their most important relationships.
(No scripts, just your words and proven common-sense strategies.)
We all know that moment when a conversation never quite starts, or when it goes off track, and we’re not sure what to do next.
Or when we’re having the same argument again, emotions rise fast, and everything can feel out of control.
So we guess.
We overthink.
We shut down, or we say too much.
We hope the tension will fade on its own.
Maybe you keep thinking “I should speak up… I should say something… but I don’t know how.”
So you wait.
And waiting starts to feel like the safest option.
Until it doesn’t.
Maybe this happens with your partner, a parent, a friend, or someone at work.
And it takes a toll.
It creates distance.
Misunderstandings.
Stress you carry around all day.
You start walking on eggshells.
Replaying old conversations.
Avoiding new ones because you don’t want to make things worse.
None of that means something is “wrong” with you or the relationship.
It means you were never taught a better way.
And staying in this cycle is what keeps things stuck.
Because the hardest part of most conversations isn’t only what happens next. It’s knowing how to begin and what to do when things don’t go well.
Now imagine if conversations didn’t feel so heavy or confusing.
Imagine knowing how to start, and what to say once you do, without second-guessing yourself.
Or worrying you'll make things worse.
Imagine feeling steady instead of reactive.
Clear instead of confused.
Connected instead of distant.
What if you could talk about the hard things calmly and actually feel heard?
What if you could speak up without shutting down or getting defensive?
And what if improving your conversations didn’t require hours of therapy, a big time commitment, or memorizing scripts?
Just a simple, practical framework you can use with anyone.
That’s the shift people experience every day when they learn these tools.
What Makes This Different
Built from real communication patterns that were observed during decades of extensive clinical work — not from theory.
- Short, focused lessons with practical tools you can actually use
- Designed for real-life conversations, not perfect timing or calm conditions
- Flexible and self-paced, so you can move through it in a way that fits your life
- Intentionally affordable without compromising quality or depth
Who This Is For
This program is for:
- People who want clear, practical steps, not emotional venting
- People who generally communicate well but struggle in specific moments
- Anyone who wants to express themselves more clearly and confidently
- People who are tired of advice that sounds good but doesn’t help in real time
Real People. Real Results.
Tools that transform conversations, lower tension, and bring people closer.
CLARITY
Debra has a way of breaking things down into practical terms, making you feel as if she’s talking to you. Whether you're dealing with relationship challenges or emotional struggles, My Communication Tools® is filled with insights that work, and you'll feel the difference right away.
- Phoebe Kessler, LCSW
LOWER TENSION
This program completely transformed my relationship with my teenage daughter. We went from constant tension to a healthy, loving relationship built on mutual respect. The tools are simple, clear, and they work. I use them every day.
- Shirley Catalano
CONFIDENCE
The lessons are short, engaging, and easy to apply. These tools helped me find the right words for tough conversations and they strengthen every relationship that matters.
- Steve Lassman
These skills should have been taught in school.
But they weren’t.
We learned math, science, and English.
Not how to talk when we’re hurt, stressed, or unsure what to say.
We weren’t taught how to handle misunderstanding, stay calm in conflict, or communicate in a way that actually brings people closer.
So we do the best we can.
We repeat what we saw growing up.
We fall into habits that don’t really work, like avoiding hard topics, overexplaining, shutting down, or getting reactive.
That’s not a character flaw. It’s a skill gap.
And once you learn the right tools, everything changes.
Your confidence.
Your clarity.
Your relationships.
The way you show up in every conversation.
The tools aren’t complicated. They’re just new.
And when you finally learn them, everything gets easier.
This isn’t just another communication course.
- It’s a proven, practical system you can use in every part of your life.
- Every important relationship needs a strong foundation. And while the earlier you start, the easier it is, it’s never too late.
- You can make meaningful changes even if the other person isn’t ready, isn’t interested, or doesn’t know how to meet you there yet.
Meet Debra Roberts, LCSW,
Creator of My Communication Tools®
With 30+ years of experience as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, trauma-trained clinician, and business consultant, Debra has helped thousands of people and organizations transform the way they communicate.
After seeing consistent, fast, and lasting results with her clients, Debra created her proven and proprietary communication model, The Relationship Protocol®, a practical, common-sense approach that anyone can use.
Debra is a columnist for Inc.com, and has written more than 60 articles on communication, leadership, and workplace culture. Her work has also been featured in The New York Times, The Cut, Business Insider, and other leading publications. Debra has been a guest on top podcasts like So Money with Farnoosh Torabi, Let It Be Easy with Susie Moore, Life By Design with Dr. Robyne Hanley-Dafoe, and Why Not Do Both with Kellie Sbrocchi.
Now, she's bringing these same tools to you for just $79, driven by her mission to help people communicate with more clarity, confidence, and care, even when it’s hard.
🛠️ For therapists, coaches, and mental health professionals
These tools aren't just for your clients. They're for you, too.
Take the program, learn the method, integrate it into your sessions, and recommend it to the people you support.
It strengthen your work, speeds up progress, and helps clients communicate better, both in sessions and in their lives.
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What's Inside My Communication Tools®
✔ 10 Short, on-demand lessons (10-15 minutes each)
Clear, practical lessons that help you understand yourself and communicate more effectively.
✔ Workbook
Answer a few simple questions after each lesson to personalize what you're learning. Your answers are private and just for you.
✔ 30 Days of Accountability Reminders
Short, encouraging text messages to help you stay on track.
✔ Check-In Journal
Reflect on your progress and notice real changes over time.
Here's How It Works: (It’s Simple!)
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Log in and get started with a quick welcome video.
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Watch the short lessons at your own pace.
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Use the tools in your real conversations and daily interactions.
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See results quickly as you feel more confident in how you show up.
Your Conversations Shape Your Life
Don’t let another day pass by wishing things were different.
Stop replaying old conversations and wondering what you should have said.
You can set the tone for yourself, your relationships, and your life.
You don’t have to wait for someone else to change.
This isn’t about scripts or awkward communication tricks.
It’s about learning the skills you were never taught, in a simple format and at your own pace, so you can communicate clearly, confidently, and in a way that truly connects.
Join My Communication Tools® Today
My Communication Tools® helps people build stronger relationships, address their differences more thoughtfully, and take control of how they show, so they can connect, be heard, and feel confident being themselves.
The program is intentionally priced at just $79 to make it accessible to more people and create real impact.