There's no such thing as "a little nasty."


It's the old cliché: you can’t be “a little pregnant.”

Maybe you’re on your last nerve, and you lash out to show your frustration, or you want the other person to feel as badly as you do.  

I get it.

A quick verbal jab goes a long way to make your point. And then, you get to skip the ongoing conversations that, in your mind, lead nowhere.

I wish I could tell you it's okay to let loose once in a while, be a little mean, or nasty, and say what you’re thinking or feeling. But I can’t – not when it involves a significant or important relationship.


The problem is that a nasty little comment automatically gets stored in the other person’s brain. It is how human beings are wired. Because how you make the other person feel is what they’ll remember, not the messaging, not your words.


Nasty comments, even little ones, tell the other person that you’re not safe, and they can’t fully trust you.

Next time, hit the pause button and take a break before you say anything intentionally hurtful. And of course, learn how to express yourself more constructively because even a little nasty is not a good look.

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