Meet the Expert Behind
 The Relationship Protocol

Hi! I’m Debra Roberts

For over 20 years, 5 days a week, 6 hours a day, I have conversations with people who are struggling to say what they want to say.
I get you. 
Day in and day out, I talk to people who are not living the life they want to live because they can’t say what they want to say… because they don’t know how to talk to each other.
I watch their interactions (like a hawk) and witness as their conversation breakdown, and their relationships deteriorate. They get frustrated and they either lash out in anger or get quiet and shut down, not knowing what to do or say. Because when there's a breakdown in communication, we usually disconnect from each other. And when you don’t know how to recover, everything can fall apart. 
It feels complicated and layered. But not to me...

"After doing this work for a long time, I'm kind of like a laser beam now. I don't miss much."


For me, nothing gives me greater pleasure than teaching a few communication skills and almost immediately, seeing the same people go from feeling stuck and frustrated to experiencing a positive change. It’s amazing to watch!
Relationships are transformed, careers are launched, self-esteem grows exponentially, and the individuals have a new and different, more fulfilling life with the significant people in their lives.
The change in their relationship, from feeling frustrated and distressed to hopeful, happens fast. Instantly, they feel more in control of their lives and their ability to speak up and say whatever they want to say – with confidence.  
I want you to know; It doesn’t matter what your situation is, I’ve seen it.

"I have a reputation of turning things around quickly."

Whether it's an inner-office conflict, a situation that shattered your confidence, or if you've been struggling to communicate with a loved one, maybe to rekindle the flame... perhaps I can help you.
Don’t stay stuck!
Think about it. How can I help you?  Most likely, the solution isn't as complicated as it might seem.




Are you wondering how The Relationship Protocol (RP) model came about?


"My early social work years laid the foundation for how I view communication and relationships."

In my first 15 years as a social worker, I worked in nonprofit organizations and had on-the-job training and intense frontline experience working with troubled youth, poverty legal services, a national health organization, mental health clinic and more. It was impactful work helping individual clients, and consulting with organizations about how to respond swiftly to conflicts and improve their overall communication.

My skills were constantly put to the test having to assess situations in challenging, often crisis-oriented settings. This is where I learned that communication shapes relationships.

I found that, regardless of the environment, these three things make all the difference:

  1.   Focus on the relationship in the present (vs. the past.)
  2.   Help the individuals to feel comfortable and valued.
  3.   Give them helpful and actionable tools so they can become effective communicators.

This is what generates IMMEDIATE movement in relationships, and who doesn't want to see change and movement! Change injects HOPE when you feel stuck or trapped.


"Then, I started my private practice..."

My 20+ years in private practice working with both personal relationships and consulting with business owners has been derived from that premise that change and movement are important, especially in the beginning.

And, trust me... I have been in the trenches working with all types of difficult, hopeless and challenging relationships. That’s why my Relationship Protocol model has practical communication tools that are proven, unique and powerful.


"The RP's impact is real, and change can happen fast."

I wrote my book, The Relationship Protocol: How to Talk, Defuse and Build Healthier Relationships because I wanted to teach more people how to have effective and uncomplicated communication. The book describes the RP model in easy to read and friendly language. The model itself is a common-sense approach that can benefit all relationships.

And I know from many years of experience - if you give someone helpful, actionable tools for communicating, you’re not only going to improve their relationships, but you’ll grow their confidence and change the quality of their life for the better.

Now, I’m on an important mission to get this everyday communication model out into the world!

Let's transform how people think about communication and relationships! Learn how to resolve differences, speak thoughtfully and become stronger together.


"I’m glad you’re here."  

In The Media

WCBS - GutwiZdom: WiZdoms on Health & Wellness


4 Ways to Make Apologizing Less Stressful

In this article by Steve Calechman Debra points out why apologies can be so difficult and discusses some of the key components of an effective apology.

How to make someone like you in under 5 minutes

In this article Debra discusses the 5-minute likeability approach which includes helpful tips for quickly connecting with people and initiating a positive interaction.

Your 20 Minute Podcast with David Brower - Part 1

During Debra's interview with David Brower she talks about the role healthy communication plays in both our personal and professional relationships and how desire and commitment can make a big difference for injecting hope, and motivation even in troubled relationships.  

Your 20 Minute Podcast with David Brower - Part 2

Here's Part 2 of the podcast interview where Debra discusses the importance of being aware of the other person during interactions, and how to stop rising tension from ratcheting up. She also explains all of the components of the RP model.

So Money with Farnoosh Torabi

In this episode of Farnoosh's  podcast she and Debra discuss financial conversations, how to have difficult money talks with your partner and also how to have a better money relationship with yourself.

Thrive Global

Check out Debra's published articles on, covering topics such as dealing with unhealthy behaviors, communication, and self-care.

LI Love: How to Build Healthier Relationships

Watch Debra on News 12 TV as she talks with Carol Silva about healthy relationships and how to address conflict in a constructive way.

WCBS Newsradio - GutWiZdom Radio Broadcast

Debra joins Deidre and JG on their radio show to discuss her practical approach for making relationships and communication less complicated.

How to Communicate With Your Team and Your Clients Effectively with Debra Roberts

Listen to Debra talk about effective team and client communication on the Accelerating CFO podcast.

When Your Partner Checks Out During Parenting Moments

It happens. And it's natural. Here's what to do to make it happen less frequently. Debra was an expert contributor for this article.

Special Needs Planning: More than Special Needs Trust

In this article, by Beth Polner Abrahams, Esq., The Relationship Protocol book was recommended for families who do not have the financial resources to hire a conflict coach but acknowledge the need for communication to address disagreements pre-or post-divorce, including when there is a special needs child.

How to Be the Best Damn Listener You Can Be

It's simple: a better listener is a better husband. Debra offers some helpful suggestions in this article by Steve Calechman on

Love & Friendship: Expert Tips for Lifelong Marriage Happiness

by Melissa Erickson for Gatehouse Media

This article appeared in Sunday magazine sections across the country. It suggests that marrying your best friend can lead to greater and longer lasting happiness. In the article, Debra offers useful tips for building a healthier marital relationship and a friendship.

Creating a Digital Product Using Your Clinical Strengths & Growing It Online

Listen as Debra Roberts, LCSW discusses how to take clinical expertise and turn it into a digital product that extends far beyond the therapy room.

Long Island Woman Magazine

Carol Silva discusses the impact that consuming negative media has on us as individuals. Debra is quoted as an expert in the article about self-awareness and knowing when too much negative media is enough.

Other Media Appearances



Watch Debra on News 12 TV talk about focusing on the relationship.

Marketing Tips from a Non-Marketer for BLG Business podcast, w/ guest Debra Roberts of The Relationship Protocol!


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