Meet the Expert Behind
 The Relationship Protocol

Hi! I’m Debra Roberts, LCSW

I’ve helped transform of hundreds of relationships from hopeless to hopeful in a short period of time.

Whether relationships are unhappy, stuck, or even damaged … they can still resolve their differences, and most of the time, it can happen quickly.

I am a communication specialist, an author and a relationship expert.  For the past 20+ years, I’ve been teaching people how to talk to each other so their relationships can thrive.

I have worked with all types of challenging relationships, both personal and business relationships.

And… I want to change the way you think about communication.

Here’s why: Good communication is essential for solving problems and it builds a strong foundation for relationships, at home and in the office. 

When there’s a breakdown in communication, people disconnect. They feel stuck, isolated, unappreciated, or misunderstood. Over time, the disconnect causes other problems, such as loneliness, anger, insecurity, resentment and more.

That’s why I created the Relationship Protocol, (the RP), a communication model that guides my work. The RP shows people how to talk to each other, handle conflicts constructively, and build immediate, stronger connections today.

My simple yet practical approach acts as a blueprint for  both personal relationships and business relationships, as well as organizations at large. The Relationship Protocol gives you:

  • the mandatory ingredients required for all healthy relationships, and
  • an easy to follow system for how to actually have conversations.

This includes: bringing up topics, importance of messaging, defusing and de-escalating conflicts, and repairing and building trusting relationships.

Effective Communication = Healthy Relationships

If you'd like to set up a business consultation, a speaking engagement, a training, or media appearance, please click the Contact Us link and send me an email.


How did the Relationship Protocol evolve?

In my first 15 years as a social worker, I worked in nonprofit organizations and had on-the-job training and frontline experience working with troubled youth, poverty legal services, mental health clinic and more. I also consulted with numerous organizations in an effort to improve their overall communication.

My skills were constantly put to the test having to assess situations in challenging, often crisis-oriented settings. This is where I learned that communication shapes relationships.

I found that, regardless of the environment, these three things make all the difference:

  1.   Focus on the relationship in the present (vs. the past.)
  2.   Help the individuals to feel comfortable and valued.
  3.  Give them helpful and actionable tools so they can become effective communicators.

This is what generates immediate movement in relationships ... and who doesn't want to see change and movement! Change injects hope.

My 20+ years in private practice working with both personal relationships and consulting with business owners has been derived from that premise.

And, trust me... I have been in the trenches working with all types of difficult, hopeless and challenging relationships. That’s why my Relationship Protocol model has practical communication tools that are proven, unique and powerful. Its impact is real, and change occurs quickly! 

I wrote my book, The Relationship Protocol: How to Talk, Defuse and Build Healthier Relationships because I know that if you give someone basic information and helpful tools for communicating, you’re not only going to improve their relationships, but you’ll change the quality of their life for the better.

The book describes the RP model in easy to read and friendly language. The model itself is a common-sense approach that can benefit all relationships.

I'm honored and proud to say that hundreds of professionals have been trained in the Relationship Protocol model and they are using it successfully in their workplace, with clients, employees, customers, and in their personal lives as well.  

Now, I’m on an important mission to get this everyday communication model out into the world!

Let's transform how people think about communication and relationships! Let's learn how to resolve differences, speak thoughtfully and become stronger together as one entity.

I’m glad you’re here! 

In The Media

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4 Ways to Make Apologizing Less Stressful

In this article by Steve Calechman Debra points out why apologies can be so difficult and discusses some of the key components of an effective apology.

How to make someone like you in under 5 minutes

In this article Debra discusses the 5-minute likeability approach which includes helpful tips for quickly connecting with people and initiating a positive interaction.

Your 20 Minute Podcast with David Brower - Part 1

During Debra's interview with David Brower she talks about the role healthy communication plays in both our personal and professional relationships and how desire and commitment can make a big difference for injecting hope, and motivation even in troubled relationships.  

Your 20 Minute Podcast with David Brower - Part 2

Here's Part 2 of the podcast interview where Debra discusses the importance of being aware of the other person during interactions, and how to stop rising tension from ratcheting up. She also explains all of the components of the RP model.

So Money with Farnoosh Torabi

In this episode of Farnoosh's  podcast she and Debra discuss financial conversations, how to have difficult money talks with your partner and also how to have a better money relationship with yourself.

Thrive Global

Check out Debra's published articles on, covering topics such as dealing with unhealthy behaviors, communication, and self-care.

LI Love: How to Build Healthier Relationships

Watch Debra on News 12 TV as she talks with Carol Silva about healthy relationships and how to address conflict in a constructive way.

WCBS Newsradio - GutWiZdom Radio Broadcast

Debra joins Deidre and JG on their radio show to discuss her practical approach for making relationships and communication less complicated.

How to Communicate With Your Team and Your Clients Effectively with Debra Roberts

Listen to Debra talk about effective team and client communication on the Accelerating CFO podcast.

When Your Partner Checks Out During Parenting Moments

It happens. And it's natural. Here's what to do to make it happen less frequently. Debra was an expert contributor for this article.

Special Needs Planning: More than Special Needs Trust

In this article, by Beth Polner Abrahams, Esq., The Relationship Protocol book was recommended for families who do not have the financial resources to hire a conflict coach but acknowledge the need for communication to address disagreements pre-or post-divorce, including when there is a special needs child.

How to Be the Best Damn Listener You Can Be

It's simple: a better listener is a better husband. Debra offers some helpful suggestions in this article by Steve Calechman on

Love & Friendship: Expert Tips for Lifelong Marriage Happiness

by Melissa Erickson for Gatehouse Media

This article appeared in Sunday magazine sections across the country. It suggests that marrying your best friend can lead to greater and longer lasting happiness. In the article, Debra offers useful tips for building a healthier marital relationship and a friendship.

Creating a Digital Product Using Your Clinical Strengths & Growing It Online

Listen as Debra Roberts, LCSW discusses how to take clinical expertise and turn it into a digital product that extends far beyond the therapy room.

Long Island Woman Magazine

Carol Silva discusses the impact that consuming negative media has on us as individuals. Debra is quoted as an expert in the article about self-awareness and knowing when too much negative media is enough.

Other Media Appearances



Watch Debra on News 12 TV talk about focusing on the relationship.

Marketing Tips from a Non-Marketer for BLG Business podcast, w/ guest Debra Roberts of The Relationship Protocol!


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