Try Changing YOUR Response. See What Happens…


Do you know that relationships are similar to the gears on a clock that all work together? Each mechanism is connected in some way. When one gear moves, the others move. If one gear slows down, the rest of the gears slow down. Likewise, people in close relationships affect each other in both positive and negative ways.

For example, if you change your behavior by deciding to be kind and not engage in arguing, you can immediately change the energy between you and the other person. He or she is forced to respond differently to you because you are not repeating your expected  response.

It may sound cliché, but it does take two people to continue an argument. If you choose NOT to engage or if you respond in a more positive manner, you have successfully changed the course of that one interaction. Each interaction is then built on the next. This is how one person effects change in all of their relationships.

The “Gears of a Clock” diagram below illustrates how close relationships are interconnected and affected by each other. This includes romantic relationship, business colleagues, friendships, and family members too.

It’s empowering to know that you can make a difference in your relationships, whether or not the other person participates with you. You can make the choice right now: start behaving differently and don’t engage in negative interactions. Think before your respond. Try a more positive approach, or walk away before you say something you might regret. Make the commitment today – change your response and you can change the outcome!