Are You in the Driver’s Seat?
Let’s look at “driving in a car” as a metaphor for how individuals live their lives.
It’s important to be an effective and careful driver. When you are driving, you should have your hands securely on the steering wheel and be aware of the road...
Did a political argument ruin your family's dinner?
In today’s political climate, sitting across the table from a loved one with opposing views can be exhausting. Odds are, they’re not going to change their opinion on the spot, and in the end, a negative interaction affects everyone at the table.
...What Are Emotional Triggers?
When you notice that your immediate reaction to a person or situation is overly emotional or irrational, it usually means that something has been building up or is hidden deep inside of you - such as anger, sadness, resentment, frustration, or a t...
You Can Control Your Emotional Triggers Today
In my last article, I talked about emotional triggers and how they typically come from a few different sources. Now let’s find out how to work with them.
Thankfully, there are ways to combat emotional triggers.
The first step is to bring awarene...
State Your Intentions - Give them your "Why" upfront
When you tell someone your goal or intention for an interaction, they are more likely to listen to you, rather than defend themselves or get annoyed.
If you're bringing up an important subject, expecting a mixed response, or if the other person m...
Be kind to yourself always, in all ways!
When talking about kindness, we are usually referring to how we should treat others. Kindness creates a sense of safety in our relationships. It lets others know that we respect them and that we will be thoughtful in how we communicate with them.
...Don't be so focused on what you're saying that you ignore me
When you're concentrating on making your point, defending yourself, winning an interaction, or being right, you're probably not noticing me (the other person). I might be getting upset, my feelings could be hurt, or maybe I'm bored or just tuned o...
Is your bucket filling up?
Try to picture a big bucket that someone is carrying around. All of their complaints, burdens, problems & stressors go into this bucket. Slowly, drop by drop, the bucket fills. 💦
Since this person has little or no self-awareness, there’s no underst...
Quick Tip: What to do when stuck in a rough patch....
When you’re in the middle of an argument or a tense time in your relationship, try to take a step back and think of how the other person might be feeling at that moment.
It may sound counterintuitive, but if you can, remind yourself that there ar...
What’s all this talk about kindness?
Kindness builds trust and creates a safety net for all types of relationships.
Behaving kindly describes who we must be in our relationships.
It includes:
- how we treat each other
- how we speak to each other
- how we speak ab...